I know, I know. Harsh title, BUT it had to be said. Read on to find out what in the world I'm talking about.
I've always been a "busy" person. I pack my schedule with social activities, church, friends, parties, workouts, all the things! I'm a planner by nature, so I've always been the friend who organizes dinners and birthday celebrations for friends, plans game nights, or suggests a restaurant after church (Torchy's Tacos usually!) I always have plans because I always make plans! ;) But something happened when I started planning more work events and less social events. You guessed it...my social calendar suddenly opened up. I went from having plans every single night of the week to working at home more nights than I care to admit! I wasn't bothered too much, because I've been workinggg hard and needed those extra nights to make progress on personal projects, but last week I had a revelation and I think some of you might need to hear it as much as I did!
I was texting with a couple blogger friends and we ended the conversation, but then one of the girls asked if we wanted to get dinner the next night. I was free, so I said sure! It wasn't an event or a media meal, and I was excited just to enjoy a meal with friends! While we were eating the next night, one of them told me "I'm so glad we are able to hang out with you. I always wanted to invite you to things but I didn't think I was cool enough to hang out with you!" WHAT?! I'll be the first to tell you that I'm really not cool, like, reallyyy not cool. I'm just normal and I like to have fun! Her comment is crazy talk, but it reminded me of a few times in the past when people have told me that they didn't invite me to do something because they assumed I was busy already! haha! I'm not too cool and I'm not too busy for an invitation, and neither are your other friends/people you want to hang out with!
I learned years ago to not take it personally when I don't get invited to something- plans are often made when people run into each other or see each other at an event, so if they didn't see you, you won't be included in the future plans! No big deal! Didn't get invited to a birthday dinner? Ask yourself: would I have invited them to my intimate 5-person dinner party? Ok then, stop whining. ;)
I'm okay with not being invited to something, but I'm really not okay with an empty social calendar, so I'm fixing that! If you follow me on Instagram stories, you have seen some of my home redecorating projects in the works! I was feeling so blah about my house that I didn't even want to host parties at home, so I'm making changes because I LOVE hosting way too much to give that up. I can't wait to start spending a little more time on "just for fun" events again!
If you're not being invited or you're feeling like you don't have much of a social life, then start inviting other people and make your own plans! You can't sit back and wait for other people to plan everything!